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Positive Interventions – helping parents and carers manage child to parent violence in the home

28-29 July - afternoons

This training course will provide parents, carers, and professionals with the skills, knowledge and techniques required to help children and young people manage challenging behaviour.

A research programme (Selwyn 2014) looking at post-placement outcomes for adopted children highlighted the high level of child to parent violence. This shocked the researchers but is all too familiar to parents, carers and social workers who may be struggling with care experienced children for whom “fight, flight or freeze” is their first response to stress.

This training will help participants understand how to avoid such conflict situations, how to reduce stress levels and what to do if a child becomes very dysregulated. You will learn how to identify triggers and de-escalate situations.

‘Positive Interventions’ brings the trainer’s considerable experience and expertise to bear on this topic. The course content is drawn from the real life experiences and knowledge of foster carers and adopters who have shared their experience, as well as a number of sources from the UK and USA.

Additional information

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Course objectives

  • To give parents an opportunity to share with other parents the challenges of parenting a child with challenging behaviours
  • To think with parents about the impact such behaviour has on them as an individual and on their couple relationship as well as on other children in the family
  • To think about other children in the family and how to protect them
  • To teach parents how to positively intervene in challenging situations with their child and how to de-escalate potentially violent situations with their child
  • To understand how the carer’s/worker’s actions and reactions impact on behaviour

What skills will you take away?

  • Knowledge about how to positively intervene and de-escalate a potentially violent situation with a child
  • Explore a range of interventions and behaviour management techniques
  • To view any situation as an opportunity for positive learning
  • Develop an understanding of the importance of self-awareness and of how our life experiences can influence our current behaviour and how we deal with situations
  • Greater understanding of the effect of the environment on behaviour
  • Explore and practice the skills of effective communication while developing active listening skills

Who should attend?

  • Adoptive parents
  • Special Guardianship parents
  • Kinship Carers
  • Foster Carers
  • Other relatives who are supporting parents with a violent child


Ivan Sharpe worked as a Children’s Services Manager with Barnardo’s for over 28 years, where he managed a fostering service working with children with emotional and behaviour difficulties and moderate to severe learning disabilities.  The service also worked with unaccompanied asylum seeking children and young people. During this time Ivan also developed and delivered a number of training programmes particularly in the area of managing challenging behaviours with children and young people.

Since he retired in 2011, Ivan is now a part time trainer and consultant specialising particularly in behaviour management.

He has delivered training courses extensively both in the U.K. and abroad in Romania and Russia.  He has also co-written the “Positive Interventions” training course which is specifically aimed at foster carers and adopters.

Ivan is a governor at a Residential Special School and his particular responsibilities are safeguarding, residential service and outreach. Ivan is also a father and grandfather to four grandchildren which keeps him reasonably fit and busy!


Jay Vaughan, M.A., is a State Registered Dramatherapist, a Certified Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapist (DDP), a Theraplay Therapist, Supervisor and Trainer as well as a Somatic Experience Practitioner. Jay is Registered Manager and CEO at Family Futures CIC, a Voluntary Adoption Agency based in London.

Jay has been working with traumatised children since qualifying as a Dramatherapist in 1989, and passionately believes in the use of arts, play and body-based approaches in helping traumatised children and their families heal.

Jay has contributed to articles and books over the years and continues to consult and train around the UK on behalf of Family Futures.  Jay is a mother of two children and two step-children as well as a proud grandmother to four grandchildren.


Please note, Family Futures reserves the right to cancel this training up until 10 days before the start date. In the event that we find it necessary to cancel this training, participants will be offered a full refund.


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14:00-17:00 (with a break)


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