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Positive Interventions – helping parents manage child-to-parent violence in the home

24 to 25 July 2020

Course times: 9.30-16.00 on 24 July, 9.30-13.00 on 25 July

Recent research has focused the spotlight on child to parent violence. For many parents, it is all too familiar. Positive Interventions is based on the experience of parents and carers who have had to cope with aggression and violence. The primary aim of the course is to think about causes and triggers and ways that aggressive outbursts can be avoided and managed. However, the course does not duck the difficult issue that there are occasions when parents, often mothers, have to physically hold their child in order to keep them and their child safe.

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Course objectives

  • To give parents an opportunity to share with other parents the challenges of parenting a violent child
  • To think with parents about the impact such violence has on them as an individual and on their couple relationship as well as on other children in the family
  • To provide some concrete strategies to help parents protect themselves from vicarious trauma and look after to their own levels of stress when living with violence
  • To think about other children in the family and how to protect them
  • To teach parents how to positively intervene in challenging situations with their child and how to de-escalate violent situations with their child
  • To teach parents some physical interventions to help parents manage when they have no other choice than to physically intervene

What skills will you take away?

  • Knowledge about how to positively intervene and de-escalate a violent situation with a child
  • Explore a range of interventions and behaviour management techniques
  • Explore the principles of safe practice if we need to physically intervene
  • To view any situation as an opportunity for positive learning
  • Develop an understanding of the importance of self-awareness and of how our life experiences can influence our current behaviour and how we deal with situations
  • Greater understanding of the environmental effect on behaviour
  • Explore and practice the skills of effective communication while developing active listening skills

Who should attend?

  • Adoptive parents
  • Special Guardianship parents
  • Kinship Carers
  • Foster Carers
  • Other relatives who are supporting parents with a violent child


Ivan Sharpe, has worked as a Children’s Services Manager with Barnardo’s for over 28 years, where he managed a fostering service working with children with emotional and behaviour difficulties and moderate to severe learning disabilities.  The service also worked with unaccompanied asylum seeking children and young people. During this time Ivan also developed and delivered a number of training programmes particularly in the area of managing challenging behaviours with children and young people.

Since he retired in 2011, Ivan is now a part time trainer and consultant specialising particularly in behaviour management.

He has delivered training courses extensively both in the U.K. and abroad in Romania and Russia.  He has also co-written the “Positive Interventions” training course which is specifically aimed at foster carers and adopters.

Ivan is a governor at a Residential Special School and his particular responsibilities are safeguarding, residential service and outreach. Ivan is also a father and grandfather to four grandchildren which keeps him reasonably fit and busy!


Jay Vaughan, M.A., is a State Registered Dramatherapist, a Certified Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapist (DDP), a Theraplay Therapist, Supervisor and Trainer as well as a Somatic Experience Practitioner. Jay is Registered Manager and CEO at Family Futures CIC, a Voluntary Adoption Agency based in London.

Jay has been working with traumatised children since qualifying as a Dramatherapist in 1989, and passionately believes in the use of arts, play and body-based approaches in helping traumatised children and their families heal.

Jay has contributed to articles and books over the years and continues to consult and train around the UK on behalf of Family Futures.  Jay is a mother of two children and two step-children as well as a proud grandmother to four grandchildren.



Family Futures CIC
3 & 4 Floral Place
7 - 9 Northampton Grove
London N1 2PL

Course times: 10am - 4:30pm


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